I look around and I see sisters, who sadly have no sense of haya or modesty. The immodest clothes, the actions, the foul speech, the bad attitude and mannerisms and vanity.
The nature of the provocative and flirtatious body language on display which sends out a desperate message of ‘LOOK AT ME, NOTICE ME, COMPLEMENT ME, WORSHIP ME!’. It doesn’t even matter, if it’s out on the street or if it’s on social media, all this attention seeking for what a glance, whistle, guys and girls drooling over you? Or is it for an obnoxious sort of popularity? You are a Muslim. A Queen. Does a Queen act like this, cursing like a gangster, mocking, and slandering those who don’t spend 24 hours looking in the mirror, those who don’t shape their eyebrows in fear of God, those who choose to obey God and dress modestly.
Nor should they stamp their feet (i. e. act in such a manner as to) draw attention to their charms (and arouse the passion of men). And, O believers, turn to God all together in repentance that you may attain true prosperity Qur’an 24.31.
Why oh why my sisters, do you degrade yourself. Do you not have a mother, a father, friends or family to remind you of your role as a Muslimah? Do you not know how Rasulallah (saw) and Allah (SWT) commanded us to be? Then please tell me sisters, what happened to your modesty?
We are Muslimahs, do you understand what that means? Our mark is our haya and our modesty. Our Haya, Our Modesty is our signature. Sure, us woman love to dress up and look good, and there isn’t anything wrong in that but in the way some of us are doing it, couldn’t be more further away from Islam.
Why my dear sisters, do you need to flaunt your bodies. A simple click of a button to make sure posts are private can keep you away from evil eyes and from so much harm and danger. One click on the privacy settings could be a beautiful baby step to modesty.
A Woman’s Most Prized Possession Isn’t Her Hair Or Beauty It Is Her Modesty
The most beautiful attribute of a woman is her modesty. It distinguishes her from society. Her modesty is her honour, her pride, and one of her most sacred gifts from Allah. Modesty is more than how a person dresses, and more than just modesty in front of people, rather its reflected in a Muslim’s speech, dress, and conduct: in public in regards to people, and in private in regards to God. Any talk of modesty, must begin with the heart.
“Modesty is part of faith’ and that part of faith must lie in the heart.
Modesty (Haya) and maintaining one’s honour and dignity are of primary importance in preserving the moral fibre of any society. This is why modesty has been called the ornament of a woman, which protects her form many sins and which prevents ill-intentioned men from daring to have bad thoughts about her. This haya has been made a part of her nature to safeguard her from being abused.
Abdullah ibn Uman (ra) narrated that the Prophet (saw) said: Indeed haya (modesty) and Iman are companions. When one of them is lifted, the other leaves as well”. (Baihaqi)
Please sisters, let us not be a cause of fitnah. Even though a man is responsible for his gaze, we as woman are responsible for what we give them to gaze at.
You are the Ummah of Mohammad (saw). Allah honoured you to be a Muslim so there must be something worthy of His service in you.
Please, take some time out and think about what you are doing. How your actions affect society as a whole. You can either make a positive impact with your positive and modest behaviour, or have a negative impact on younger girls around you who may look up to you as a role model.
The role of a Muslimah
Ask yourself why you are a Muslim. Open up the Qur’an and read its meaning. Watch videos on youtube, there are endless opportunities with knowledge just at your finger tips. I would particularly recommend Nouman Ali Khan, Mufti Menk and Dr Zakir Naik. Reach for this knowledge understand what haya and modesty is. Understand what your Creator expects of you and has commanded you to do.
As Muslims we are to enjoin the good and forbid the evil or in others words what is against Islam. My dear sister, please realise you contribute to a larger society, what you do and how you act influences that society. You could either make a good impact or a negative one.
“Whoever starts a good thing and is followed by others, will have his own reward and a reward equal to that of those who follow him, without it detracting from their reward in any way. Whoever starts a bad thing and is followed by others, will bear the burden of his own sin and a burden equal to that of those who follow him , without it detracting from their burden in any way”. (Hadith Reported by al-Tirmidhi,)
There are impressionable young girls who are easily swayed and influenced. They easily take those that they see as role models. We need to ensure that we do not lead a bad example, we need to think about the bigger picture not just about ourselves but as individuals, that make up a society, a community, an Ummah.
Dress for Allah
Modesty is better than any Western fashion. The cloak of modesty is our mystery, it is our self-respect, obedience to our Creator and what real beauty is all about.
Just as we spend hours on end beautifying our bodies, let us spend the same amount of time, if not more to beautify our hearts and nurture our souls. Take time to get to know your Lord, your Creator who loves you more than even your own parents.
Everything, I have written in this blog I say to myself first and foremost.
So again, I say to you and to myself let’s not dress for the dunya but dress for Allah, to the one we will return to sooner than we can imagine. And, please when you see sisters dressed immodestly do not encourage them by liking their pictures, and telling them how ‘gorgeous’ they look which will lead them further into arrogance. Do not look at these woman as role models, but pray for them to be guided. Make dua for them and for yourselves. Make dua to Allah aza wa jal to bring modesty back and to give haya to our Ummah.
And tell the believing women that they (also) should restrain their gaze (from looking at the men whom it is lawful for them to marry, and from others’ private parts), and guard their private parts, and that they should not display their charms except that which is revealed of itself; and let them draw their veils over their bosoms, and (tell them) not to display their charms to any save their husbands, or their fathers (and grandfathers, and both paternal and maternal uncles), or the fathers of their husbands, or their sons, or the sons of their husbands (both their own and step-sons and grandsons), or their brothers (and foster- and step-brothers), or the sons of their brothers, or the sons of their sisters, or the Muslim women and the women of good conduct with whom they associate, or those (slave-girls) their right hands possess, or the male attendants in their service free of sexual desire, or children that are as yet unaware of femininity. Nor should they stamp their feet (i. e. act in such a manner as to) draw attention to their charms (and arouse the passion of men). And, O believers, turn to God all together in repentance that you may attain true prosperity. Qur’an 24.31.
“Among the things that people have found from the words of the previous prophets was: ‘If you feel no shame, then do as you wish.’”
“It is not for a believer, man or woman, when Allaah and His Messenger have decreed a matter that they should have any option in their decision. And whoever disobeys Allaah and His Messenger, he has indeed strayed into a plain error”